Not Boyfriend Problems.

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thread starter Literature Sep 26 2010 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Wow, I can't believe I'm telling my problems out to Basil.. o__o But I feel like I've run out of options, and I seem to feel worse and worse about this problem. He's not my boyfriend. We're the same age, we go to the same school, and on top of that he's my next door neighbor. We've known each other for a long time, but it wasn't until Freshmen year (3 years ago) that we began really talking. It was this summer that set off the spark. I've always had previous little crushes on him, but I never let it develop into something bigger because of the fact that I've always thought he was too good for me. In June, we really starting to hang out and be around each other a lot. I would think we saw each other every single day. After a while, I just had to confess my feelings towards him, and when I did he also told me that he liked me as well. Then we got really close. We acted like a couple around each other, and in front of others. In August, I was set off to go to Japan and I wasn't coming back until the first of September. So the night before I left we pulled an all nighter at his house, and he promised me then that we'd go out when I came back. I was happy, and so I waited for him. When I came back things seemed normal. We still acted like a couple. A bit less, because of the fact that he had surgery while I was away. (He tore a couple ligaments in his knee) He couldn't walk or go out for a while, and so I respected that and backed off a little. 3 weeks went by, and he still didn't ask me out. I was trying to be patient, but I just couldn't help myself. I just really fell for him. That's when last Thursday he announced to me that he doesn't like me anymore and that we should just stay friends. I was really upset. I didn't understand how he could stop liking me in such a short amount of time, and I didn't know why he made me wait like that. I asked him whether he stopped liking me because I wasn't around as much (Because of his knee and me going to Japan) or because he realized I wasn't his type. He said I just wasn't for him. Ouch. I know it's not that big of a deal, but I'm really heart broken at this and I don't know what to do. A part of me wants to keep on trying and hope he'll like me again, but another part of me doesn't want to risk getting hurt again and waste my time. Do I have a chance? Thank you for reading my rant. .___.

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Literature 09/26/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] brewskie425 : Chances are he fell for someone else during his surgery. During recovery he probably spent time with someone else but basically he was "vulnerable" and wanted someone. If he moves on that easily, you shouldn't be wasting time crying. Life is still in front of you and letting this heartbreak stop you won't do. You'll be stronger after this. It takes time of course and nobody will blame you for that. But just don't fall down the emo-staircase. That's never the way to go. Return to normal life and hang out with friends, have fun. The time you spend moping over someone can be better spent happily with others that matter. [/quote] I doubt he fell for anyone while I was gone because he wasn't able to go out at all and no one was able to come over. Thanks for the advice, though. No one really answered my question yet..

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[quote] Literature : I doubt he fell for anyone while I was gone because he wasn't able to go out at all and no one was able to come over. Thanks for the advice, though. No one really answered my question yet.. [/quote] Seeing hes an ass, seduce him. You still have a chance. By the way.. whats your name? I might be that guy o-o

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LuckyGambler 09/26/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

He probably found another hotter girl over the summer and probably wants to cut your connect off so he can get closer to that hot girl he met over the summer... but.. I dunno.... just leave him be...

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wizlid 09/26/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Nope no chance.

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MonCheri 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Am I the only one who might have felt that he felt alone and felt the TS wasn't there for him? People in vulnerable states often feel depressed, especially if they are home all the time with no one to visit him. He probably felt that since you were in Japan, having a better time than he was (or he assumed you were having a much better time than he was). He might of actually been quite jealous when you came back, happy from Japan, and he's in crutches...Just saying. I actually don't think he's an a-hole. He was kind enough to say to stop it. Sometimes you won't get people as kind as him to say to just end it. It takes guts. Sometimes, people simply cheat on you, and you walk into it. What hurts more is to see the person you love in love with someone else, and then you yourself have to end it. Sometimes, words don't even need to be spoken when both of you walk away. Anyways, get over it. I'm at a point where I am sick of guys and annoyed at relationships in general. Sorry if I'm being harsh or anything.

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Vengeance 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Literature : I doubt he fell for anyone while I was gone because he wasn't able to go out at all and no one was able to come over. Thanks for the advice, though. No one really answered my question yet.. [/quote] You seem to be in such denial to everything that everyone says that isn't "Oh you have a chance still" You don't.

BoredToday 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Well yea you might have a chance until he tells you the real reason he "isn't into you" because tbh It doesn't seem like that short of time could change someones mind. I did something similar, convinced a girl that I didn't like her anymore because I didn't think I wasn't good enough :I maybe its something like that? iunno :o but good luck with it o.~

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Optimistic 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Honestly? I've experienced a lot but I really haven't encountered this. Based off what it seems, while you were gone he met someone else, OR he was just waiting for you to go so that he could finally tell you he really didn't have feelings for you (which he knew prior, but couldn't tell you because he's a woman). I'ma say you have no chance for a bit, but in the future there's always a possibility because it seems he does have some physical attraction to you. Don't talk to him for a few months, lets say 2-3. Then text him one day and ask how he is and just you know, talk and start to text a bit. Then stop texting him and 2 months later text him again and be flirty, ask him to hang out somewhere and then you'll end up hooking up if you play your cards right ^_^. gl

killerpro31 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Screw that muthaf**ker. You deserve better madam.

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ElitistMan 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Literature : You are so pessimistic, lol. But I was afraid of this. He's a genuine guy so I never expected this from him which is why I'm so upset and in shock. [/quote] Well you have to be pessimistic in situations like this, and have a critical attitude. You can't try and look for the good because what he did was pretty cold and obviously you didn't deserve that, if there was a good reason why he stopped liking you, or if he was a decent guy at all he would of taken the time to explain it to you better instead of basically throwing you away like that.

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Boss 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Wow, all you ratty kids calling him an ass, it's a perfectly justifiable move he did. If you chicks wanna hear it, at least be prepared to get what you were lookin to hear.

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Vengeance + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Exactly this. ^ Above Would you guys rather have him date her but not like her? -_-" He stopped liking her so he stopped whatever they had going on before it got too far.

Ninjenk 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Sorry if this sounds mean, but he just toot it and boot it.

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haku323 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

he'll be back. and if he isn't, there would be no point in him being back. if you know wut i mean.

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whatgundamami 09/27/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

he pretty much lied to you move on, not kidding like this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I8T3IlxJB54&NR=1 he already gave up on you, forget him

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