So my boyfriend is going to Australia

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thread starter faintxpirate Sep 15 2010 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

.. .and is taking his ex-girlfriend to her Winter Formal. He has told me that my worst trait is being selfish. Whenever I confront him about something, he asks "Why do you have to be so selfish?", throws an argument and ends up winning. Upon hearing about his depart to Australia, I become angry, but the only word that came out of my mouth was "k..." because I didn't want to show that I was being selfish in not letting him go. I'm currently trying to change by not being so self-centered (as he says). These past 3 days I've been feeling really upset about the whole thing, debating whether or not I should tell him about my true feelings. I'm afraid he might just throw another argument at me asking why I'm being selfish. Am I wrong to feel "selfish" in this situation? How would you feel in my position? Should I confront him about it? (Sorry for wall of text!) Optional to read: Also, his ex-girlfriend does not know that my boyfriend and I are dating. He does not want to tell her that we're going out because he does not want to hurt her feelings (esp. if the girlfriend is me). I don't want to tell her myself because my boyfriend would be upset with me. He wouldn't have met her if it weren't for me. I know my boyfriend in real life, but he only knows her through MapleStory. I'm the one who introduced them back when he and I first started dating, but I broke up with him (for personal reasons) and he dated some girl at his school. After their relationship ended, he asked out that girl from Australia through MSN. Then he broke up with her and asked me out again. Honestly, I think she should know the truth since he and I have been dating for 9 months now. EDIT: Thanks for the advice guys, it really helps...

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ClementZ 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Lol, no. He just wants freedom. And thinks you're stopping him. I think.

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tkoh 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Well someone's cheating on a certain someone.

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Hyperstep 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Inception Get that thought out of your head, he's being a guy.

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LordZubin 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Didn't your boyfriend give you a puppy...?

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faintxpirate + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Hyperstep : Inception Get that thought out of your head, he's being a guy. [/quote] Being a guy how? He wasn't planning on telling me about his trip. It just "accidently" slipped from his mouth. All he could say was "Oh, I thought I told you." [quote] LordZubin : Didn't your boyfriend give you a puppy...? [/quote] Yes he did...

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NotKelly 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Give him a long lecture on the difference between being selfish, and a girl not wanting to be cheated on.

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starswift 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Isn't communication the most important thing in a relationship? There should be discussion and open understanding but your boyfriend seems to be avoiding this Sorry I can't help you...good luck though~

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Fabregas 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

hes about to go slam a bunch of aussies.

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sistem 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Lool how is it jealousy to don't want your boyfriend to take his ex to a party. IF my girlfriend even though of doing that Id show her the back of my hand, and tell her to get the hell of my sight. You should have a really long talk with him, to see if you guys are on the same page, evaluate the situation, and then do what you feel like, either break up, or continue with him, Id watch my back on the later option tho

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easyrolling + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

wow you need to explain to him distance can really take it's toll on a relationship and he needs to make it very clear with her that he's dating you to his ex cry your heart out if you really need to, it will emphasize how much he means to you if he's not 2/2 on these he's not worth your time...

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magemorgan 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

i am going to Australia also. i was one of the lucky winner on Opera

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Dracius 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Uh oh..... Theres a 45% chance of being cheated on... Under half, but still high.

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Akitox3 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I think you should really tell him about your feelings. The fact that he's going to Australia and his EX is there not knowing you two are dating might cause a problem. Also, holding him back and pushing him away are two different things D;

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RoadRoster 09/15/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Cheat on him. He's thousands of miles away from you. Have your fun, and when he comes back, he'll never know.

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