serious question here.

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thread starter wastinq Aug 16 2010 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Its about my aunt who called us wh0res and almost made my little sister run away from home because of that. I made a thread about that a few days ago. You see, my grandpa passed away on March 17th, and we went to Turkiye a few days later to bury him there. My sister told her bf (her ex now) that we were coming over there. And he came over to our city without telling my sister. That night when he just arrived, me and my favorite cousin were outside. We had dinner together. I regocnized him and my cousin let him in. He couldnt go in my grandma's house and we wanted to send him to a Mosque but he wanted to stay as close as possible to my sister. The next morning my sister and her ex talked a little bit and a tenant of my grandma's apartment saw that and blamed one of the other tenants. There was this huge fight and they both blamed my little sister. Who just talked to him. I had to beg my mom to forgive my little sister. I cried for her. And when my mom finally forgave her, I yelled at the tenants for being forking biches. (long story, i'm sorry) Now, a few days ago, my mom got a call from my aunt, who went to vacation to Turkiye. And told my mom that my grandma is being threatened by her neighbors and a few tenants, because of my little sisters ex (she broke up right after the incident, but they're still friends). Then she called us wh0res, not exactly but in other words. In a Turkish sentence. Now i just hear from my little sister that she spoke to our cousin (my favorite cousins younger brother) and he told her that our grandma is being threatened because she is widow now and got a lot of money from my grandpa. Not because of that guy. My aunt lied to my mom (her sister) and called us wh0res. Made my sister cry and almost run away from home, to her ex. Made me pissed and get mad at my friends (irl and ms) for no reason. And acts like theres nothing wrong. She might come over to eat and my little sisters going to yell at her. My mom gave her permission to do so. But my family is way to vain to admit theyre wrong. What should i do about this? Should i just let it go, or talk to my aunt and tell her to stop talking bs about us because she doesnt have any daughters (she has 3 sons, my mom has 2 daughters. im the oldest. And my aunt is very jealous at my mom because of that) Goddammit. sorry for this long useless story. I just need some advice... again [edit: my mom has 3 daughter, forgot to count in myself)

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Intrudes 08/16/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I'm sorry but most of this story made no sense. Why would she call you guys wh0res just because your sister talked to a guy?

wastinq 08/16/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Intrudes : I'm sorry but most of this story made no sense. Why would she call you guys wh0res just because your sister talked to a guy? [/quote] dont ask me, ask my aunt... which u cant do, right... ugh. i seriously dont know why she would do that because my sister talked to a guy :/ my favorite cousin robbed people, stole cars, broke into people houses @3-4am and she doesn't say anything about that.

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Intrudes 08/16/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

You did say she was jealous of your mom. Maybe she is just taking out her anger/jealousy on you and your sister because you weren't her children? I'm not sure. Honestly if I were you I would almost not worry about it, does the rest of your family understand that neither of you did anything "wh0rish"?

wastinq 08/16/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Intrudes : You did say she was jealous of your mom. Maybe she is just taking out her anger/jealousy on you and your sister because you weren't her children? I'm not sure. Honestly if I were you I would almost not worry about it, does the rest of your family understand that neither of you did anything "wh0rish"? [/quote] actually, my family is on her side, because they all have sons. my mom is the only one with just daughters. And because of that she isnt worth anything to her sister and 2 brothers. Her youngest sister is on our side, she doesnt have any children. An we never did wh0rish things.

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Intrudes 08/16/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Would there be any way for you to explain to them you did nothing wrong? If not I wouldn't worry about it then.

wastinq 08/16/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Intrudes : Would there be any way for you to explain to them you did nothing wrong? If not I wouldn't worry about it then. [/quote] hmm, not really. they wont listen to me. theyre too vain to admit when theyre wrong about something

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BobR + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

You're just caught in a bad place between two very different cultures and you're going to have to make the best of it. Obviously you're a fully integrated American Girl, and your Aunt is a holdout for a different (far different) cultural experience. You're going to have some friction between the two as you move further and further away from her world The same thing happens to Asian families who are being americanized, as well as Muslim cultures, Latino cultures and all the diverse people who've come here. Fortunately for me (as far as avoiding this type of conflict anyway), my family broke away from European traditions long ago (generations ago), so I'm not touched by both sides- at least not as closely as you are. I think mostly you're just going to have to get used to the idea that you're both right, in your own ways, and try to understand how the other is seeing it. If that can only happen on your part, then so be it. Your Aunt will be the one who's lessened by the experience, not you. But making the friction worse by confronting her about it will only make her more certain she's right, and you're being corrupted by this awful society you've found yourself it. I don't think there's any way you can "win" in a situation like this. The best you can do is get along with her, honor her traditions, and stay true to your own.

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CTags 08/17/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Lol at forgetting yourself.. but honestly.. you guys shouldn't let yourselves fall over some stupid relatives.. recently I went camping with family and they treated my brother different cause he's a "thug" or a "gangster" or whatever. They tried teasing him about knives and just having it cause its cool, and they asked him to show them a few tricks and he just shut them up completely. I don't have these problems because I'm supposedly the good child yet I'm corrupt as f**k. To be honest, if your relatives.. if ANYONE can't accept you for who you are, just smile, wave, and walk away. Cause f**k them. You don't need them. If contact with them just causes problems then limit that contact. And trust me.. if I was insulted like that, the first thing I do is deck someone in the face. But IF I'm able to walk away, I'd rather do that then cause myself more problems. Don't let them bring you guys down. Ignorance? Jealousy? F**k that too. And if the world doesn't accept you, f**k them too, because there ARE people who do accept you. Family, friends, whatever. Don't let some jealous b*t*h get you down. In-fact, show them off and do better than them. Live well just to shut them haters up. Do you. <3 From: Jes <3

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LegendClark 08/17/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Kill your aunt.

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Vysper 08/17/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Oh I remember, this is the one where you guys get in trouble because your grandma had her bf over when her husband died or something.

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faned 08/17/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Im guessing ur turkish? o.O cuz of the way u said turkey lol well i am also turkish so i know where ur coming from like the grown ups love to take things srs... and expect us to be married (more like arranged married) but like why would u even care about that?O.O just tell ur aunt off

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RoastedChildren 08/17/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

You just said you were Dutch last time, and your threads never makes sense.

shaowreaper 08/17/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

As ugly, uncomfertable, and angering as this situation may seem there is quite alot left to lose. As painful as it is i would council patience and dare i say it ... forgiveness. If your aunt is willing to ignore it and stay quite dont angue it more as BobR said you both have diffrent views and no one is going to back down so just let it go if your aunt seems willing to. If not dig in hunker down and prepare for a war family arguements are horrid and nasty. Good luck.

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