Insecure relationship partners

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thread starter iluvsarah May 03 2010 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

A few questions came to mind today after realizing my girlfriend and I have reached our 1 year mark. We spend a lot of time together, but not every waking moment. She's nice, loving, sweet, pretty, and all that jazz. She's everything I could ever want in a girl, but she does have one flaw; she's EXTREMELY insecure. She wasn't this insecure at the start of our relationship. Her reason was she thought I'd be the same as every other guy her friends have dated; a pompous jerk who couldn't last a month in a seriously committed relationship. Now that we've reached a year, she's taken a more serious view in our relationship. We've talked it out and she said her ex boyfriend and her friends' boyfriends made her insecure about how other guys think or feel. She said she's seen me on multiple occasions, having a great time talking with some girls she doesn't know. She just never made a big deal about it until every now and then when she'd reach her limit and intervene. I come to you basilers because I've gotten some pretty useful insights in the past when I came across a serious-relationship issue and decided to ask for help here. Maybe you can help me again with your own experiences or advices. 1. If your partner is insecure in your relationship together, how do you handle that? 1 & 1/2. Do you even try to handle it? Maybe just break up and find someone else? 2. Am I crazy for thinking my girlfriend is cute when she gets mad and jealous after seeing me hanging out, walking with, and talking to a girl I've just made friends with that I haven't introduced her to? 3. When it comes to insecurtiy, how far is too far? 4. Are you ever sarcastic with your partner, or a straight talker? NOTE: I don't plan on breaking up with her. I've never lasted a year with a girl before. She's special to me.

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Cyrus0 05/03/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Make her feel beautiful.

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KingFire12 05/03/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

The only way to get rid of insecurity is to provide security.

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Narcissus 05/03/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I'm sarcastic because I love him, but I can be serious you're not crazy, I'm not the jealous type but if I like someone enough, I become the jealous type when she's anorexic that's when it's too far and if you like her work at it.

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RaveTechnician 05/03/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

SPY FOR EVIDENCE

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aethynyc 05/03/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I'm a straight talker. Sometimes I let my man know I'm insecure but to be honest, i just want his attention even tho i know he still loves me. TS, it's a matter of trust. Let her know/feel/see that she can trust you. One year and a half is nothing to be honest. Relationships can fall anytime even after 5 years. Give her a lil more attention? Talk to her more often and complement her more? Surprise her from time to time with random gifts (doesn't have to be expensive. A random ice cream cone would make me smile XP) Keep the love up high!

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OmNomBom 05/03/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I think I've became a bit clingy, and I wish I wasn't. My boyfriend says he thinks it's cute, but I wanna stop annoying him and show him I can be independent too, you know?

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iluvsarah 05/03/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I definitely understand that 1 year is nothing to a majority of couples out there. But before this relationship, I was pretty much a gigalo, always moving from one girl to another with less than a 1 or 2 month gap inbetween each relationship (if it's even called a relationship). I guess I just woke up one morning and decided to try a serious relationship for once (not seriously but it's about the gist of it). Thanks for saying I'm not crazy when my friends think I'm delusional. Really appreciate it. She's not anorexic; looks pretty normal. I like the random gifts idea, might try that. I do my best to make her feel beautiful, although I could be lacking in that department. As I said, she looks normal, average even. I've never gone for an average-looking girl before. Before her, I had a massively high standard when it came to outward appearance in a potential girlfriend. That being said, my exes were all hot. Not to say she's not, oh hell no, but just being honest that my exes were more physically attractive. Any other advices?

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