I lost my bestfriend.

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thread starter EscaladeScar Aug 25 2010 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Hello Basil, since people vent on here I think I should do it too, since everyone thinks that my diary is a public place. Basil Market is where I should do it. I lost my bestfriend, shes been ignoring me the whole summer. I dont know why. She's a effing major female dog. She's changed. Her looks, her attitude, everything? But I still miss her. It affected me really badly, cause shes like a sister to me. Infact, a sister thats not annoying. She had this emo bullcrap and now shes all like, I don't know.. changed? This is on MapleStory and before you flame, I have friends in real life too. >:l But she's been there through everything. I know I know, MapleStory is a game, blah blah blah, but I've known her since 2006. It's scary really. But I hate 2010, it's happend this summer. We webcammed, we hanged out on MapleStory every day! We msn chatted. I even phoned her once or twice. We talked every day. But this summer, it's changed. I hate change. She says shes busy with school and all that poo, but she ignores me. EVERYDAY, even if I try to atleast say Hi on msn. She never answers, so I log off, 5 hours later she just writes "Hi?". It makes me mad. Even if I don't say hi, she ignores me and never talks to me. If I even write "Hey, whatcha doing today?" She never answers. 3 days later, no reply. Even if I ask every 2 hours. It makes me upset, I don't know why cause, we never even met before. It's a game. But I wish I never met her cause I wouldn't be this angry right now. I don't wanna be her friend, I wanna be her bestfriend again. I feel used. I let her borrow my stuff and gave her advice when her sister treated her like absolute garbage! I really wanna punch someone right now. Secrets, conversations, I even mailed her a birthday card one time. Video Calls/Webcams. She even learned guitar and played a song for me. No I'm not a lez, but she was like my sister. Not my bestfriend, but a sister and a bestfriend. Now it's all over, it's done. I don't know what to do. & I don't know what I did either. It's been like this throughout the whole summer. WHOLE SUMMER.

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ragnerkiller + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I would suggest avoiding her, that's one of the only plausible solutions I could think of, that involves online friendship. Maybe she felt as if your obligation was to be with her everyday, maybe she just needs space, we all do, so just give her that space for now. I had more to say, but it would be too long, and I forgot it too lol.

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EscaladeScar 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I am annoying aren't I? and xSlayerx19 U ARENT HELENA AND YOU ARENT A WOMAN. -cries-

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xoxonessa 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

GET OVER HER If she isn't willing to stay in your life, then move on! Why waste your time when she doesn't try to be in your life? You should be much better off.

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OneFantasy 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Maybe she got into a relationship irl, or maybe cause she heard rumors about you. :l Even if you guys are best friends, not all friendships can last that long. Everyone will get backstab/hurt eventually. :l

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gluestikk 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Ask yourself these questions : Have you done anything to her? Have you hurt her badly? Have you ever ignore her?(Kinda ironic here, but sometimes it could be the case). If you've answered no to these questions, then you've done nothing wrong. The fact is that everybody changes, some for good, and some very badly. I've felt this way once, and it's not because I've done something wrong, it's because I've lost total confidence in myself because of how my ex best friend treated me. I know it's very hard for you to let go of her, but if she truly makes you feel this way. Then the best thing you could do is tell her how you feel. Pouring your heart out to her is the only way to get an answer, but if you get no answer, then you'll know for sure that she's changed.---And it's not your fault. So until you could see her in person, this venting is useless, and taking it out on yourself is even worse.

vHachi 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

D: im so sorry, I really hope she stops being a female dog D:

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EscaladeScar 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] gluestikk : Ask yourself these questions : Have you done anything to her? Have you hurt her badly? Have you ever ignore her?(Kinda ironic here, but sometimes it could be the case). If you've answered no to these questions, then you've done nothing wrong. The fact is that everybody changes, some for good, and some very badly. I've felt this way once, and it's not because I've done something wrong, it's because I've lost total confidence in myself because of how my ex best friend treated me. I know it's very hard for you to let go of her, but if she truly makes you feel this way. Then the best thing you could do is tell her how you feel. Pouring your heart out to her is the only way to get an answer, but if you get no answer, then you'll know for sure that she's changed.---And it's not your fault. So until you could see her in person, this venting is useless, and taking it out on yourself is even worse. [/quote] I poured my heart out to her. She didint answer except saying "cool." I asked if I ever hurt her or ignore her or did anything that upsetted her and she said "No it's just school, cant you understand that?" And I'm like, "But you talk to Gezel all the time, not me".

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gluestikk + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Well if that's the case, then why bother? You've done the best you could, and as I stated before, she is not worth it. You gave her your everything, yet she's treating you like trash. I wish that you guys could work something out, but she's just not ready as you are. You two are on two completely different levels. If you feel like she's used you, then trust your instincts. Incidents like this not only lowers your self esteem but alters your life as well if you aren't willing to give up and go on with the better half of your life.

NewHero 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

thats suxs

dHype 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Forget her, I'll be your bestfriend.

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Lykeftw120 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Aw, I feel really bad for you. That's happened to me as well. I'll be your new best friend! :D

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xxryzinxx 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

me.you.friend.now?(u thought i was gonna say bed didn't u? :D) but i'll be ur friend :D

nickmiller 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

well maybe shes startng her life now doing school stuff maybe got a boyfriend and left her games behind but one day she will come back (maybe)

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xoxKawaii 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

people change. get over it.

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Ninjenk 08/25/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

If your like sisters confront her. Or ignore her, they always come back.

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