Basilmarket, I need help w/ my social life

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thread starter zero2g Aug 02 2010 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

As official today, I lost my last IRL immediate friend who I regularly play and hang out with. The reason I lost him? I don't know, his parents just doesn't want us to play again (nothing homo btw... seriously). So now, I officially do not have a friend... Unless you count MSN, Facebook and other social/IM friends friends. I have none. And really, I am looking for advice for this, how to make friends. Here are generally some personality details about me. (No, I'm not going for ASL, etc or such) Here are the positive sides: I have a sense of humor, I like to make general jokes, satire, some dark humor, etc. I am a technological freak or a tech wanna-be, I'm not really advanced in that but I am interested in technology I am fairly active, etc... Here are the negative sides I have a low self esteem I am overweight (aka fat) I am Shy I am not really social, seriously when I see a person, I generally try to avoid them I am lazy, can't avoid that I (think) am addicted to the games I play (Ex, Maplestory, Call of Duty) Now here is the current situation Sure you might think it's easy for me to just walk outside and make friends or school etc but... I go to a private school where everyone around the city goes to too, I have school friends but they are all scattered and they are also always busy with their social lives. My household currently is disliked by the general community of where I live because the previous residence in here was a bunch of students, now it looks messy, unclean and we are trying our best to clean it, however they will not accept it I find people intimidating esp girls. Seriously I am actually afraid of girls more than I like them. I generally think girls are some of the most powerful people. I am very sensitive to any emotional attacks at me. Sure I can take a punch in the head or a sacking, but these emotional scars lasts just like cuts and bruises or worse. These are the current traits I can explain about myself right now. Please help me with this because without friends, it really hurts you a lot to know that you don't have a social life. Thanks

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NapalmDe4th 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

-Prepare for BM to deflate whatever self-esteem you have left- Uh, be confident...or something.

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Karz 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Go do something social where you will meet people with similar interests You'd be surprised how many friends I've made at the gym You could try something like that, because everyone at that location will share a similar interest with you

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dimo 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Simple, change the following: I have a low self esteem I am overweight (aka fat) I am Shy I am not really social, seriously when I see a person, I generally try to avoid them I am lazy, can't avoid that I (think) am addicted to the games I play (Ex, Maplestory, Call of Duty)

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NoLife 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] dimo : Simple, change the following: I have a low self esteem I am overweight (aka fat) I am Shy I am not really social, seriously when I see a person, I generally try to avoid them I am lazy, can't avoid that I (think) am addicted to the games I play (Ex, Maplestory, Call of Duty) [/quote] I think he means how to :P Well, make a Facebook and chat with all your class mates and see if any of you connect. Or play a sport/get a hobby.

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Squirteezy 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Go play at the local park and meet some mates. Ultimate frisbeeeeeeeeee! Exercise+friends. Honestly we can't change you and the post you'll get will probably not help.

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dontforgetme 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

i lost my best friend too cause she decided to h0ar out so i replaced her. k OT: solution to ur problem: move to calgary and ill be ur friend done :D

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iSnipeYourItem 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

go work out XD and man just be your self.. well you kinda described that already just see how it takes you..

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dimo 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] NoLife : I think he means how to :P Well, make a Facebook and chat with all your class mates and see if any of you connect. Or play a sport/get a hobby. [/quote] I am just stating that his so called self proclaimed flaws are the reason that he is "alone". Making an effort to change some/all of them will most likely lead to the results that he desires.

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Omegathorion 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I don't see a problem with solitude, but you're probably different. I suggest you try joining a gym. People talk easier when there's sweat involved, I've noticed. It'll also help with your weight and self-esteem.

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KFCBucket 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Try to be out going, and talk to everyone. I don't make new Friends easily either. I tend to show my true colours after I've known the person for an amountnof time.

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one23abc 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I don't have any friends who play MS either... Join a good guild? You can have a lot of fun with a good guild.

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Makethemutesing 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Lift weights until you're more powerful than the girls that you know.

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ricefluff 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

You can easily fix low self esteem and overweight Overweight: Go to a gym, or change your diet Low Self Esteem: Join a good guild in Maplestory, and you can always join the Tech Club at school or something, considering you're so interested in technology. I'm sure you'll easily make friends with people who share similar interests

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ilovetigrex 08/02/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

May the force be with you

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