How to win her heart back?

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thread starter BabyyFresh Apr 14 2010 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

How can i win a girl's heartback that's with another guy. (She has broken up with him once, and then got back together again the next week) She sorta loves me and still with that guy, so far i just continued to talk with her and got her trust back.

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ThatPirateGuy 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

A woman's heart is very...complicated to understand. But lets break down what you're asking for. You're asking how you can "win her heart". So you must've lost it at some point -- how? You say she loves you even though she's with another guy. If that's the case you must have really done something drastic for you to believe that her "heart" and "love" are separated at this point. Her heart being with another guy, because you lost it, but her still having love for you. At this point you have to reflect on what you did to lose her in the first place and allow her the chance to find out if this guy is the one for her...especially since you dropped the ball. When you play Football and you throw an interception you can't be mad at the other team for taking advantage of your mistake and scoring a touchdown. The other team being...this other guy. Suck it up and wait for things to unfold. If it was meant to be, she'll come back to you. If not? Live with the loss.

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BabyyFresh 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I lost it cause i dumped her, and she really got hurt. Then she said mess about me, and my friends jumped in and dissed her. (I dumped cause we RARELY saw each other in person, and we only talked online or on phone) but now i see her more often and talk with her more. i love her again. I have seen their conversations, and you can tell the girl gets bored like A LOT. Plus she told me that she is sorta fooling her self because she loves him cause she knows that guy won't hurt her, like i did.

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Cyrus0 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

You could always just ask Maleficent..

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ThatPirateGuy 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] BabyyFresh : I lost it cause i dumped her, and she really got hurt. Then she said mess about me, and my friends jumped in and dissed her. (I dumped cause we RARELY saw each other in person, and we only talked online or on phone) but now i see her more often and talk with her more. i love her again. I have seen their conversations, and you can tell the girl gets bored like A LOT. Plus she told me that she is sorta fooling her self because she loves him cause she knows that guy won't hurt her, like i did. [/quote] So.... You dumped a girl and you're expecting her to just take you back that easily? A lot of girls have a phobia of rejection on any level and you subjected her to that phobia. She lost a guy that she believed to love her. Not because of infidelity but because you couldn't deal with how your lives intersected. Love is not something you can turn on and off. It's not a damn switch. If you truly loved her before you would have stuck with the situation and found ways to make things work even if you rarely saw each other in person. That's what "love" is. What will you do if you get her back and you stop seeing her are frequently? Will you just give up and toss her aside like you did before? If you truly love her you'll let her explore other options and see what could be right for her. As I said before, you threw the interception and now you have to wait until the ball is back in your possession. If you try to brute force it you could screw up and lose her 100%. Especially if you dump her like you did last time.

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BabyyFresh 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] ThatPirateGuy : So.... You dumped a girl and you're expecting her to just take you back that easily? A lot of girls have a phobia of rejection on any level and you subjected her to that phobia. She lost a guy that she believed to love her. Not because of infidelity but because you couldn't deal with how your lives intersected. Love is not something you can turn on and off. It's not a damn switch. If you truly loved her before you would have stuck with the situation and found ways to make things work even if you rarely saw each other in person. That's what "love" is. What will you do if you get her back and you stop seeing her are frequently? Will you just give up and toss her aside like you did before? If you truly love her you'll let her explore other options and see what could be right for her. As I said before, you threw the interception and now you have to wait until the ball is back in your possession. If you try to brute force it you could screw up and lose her 100%. Especially if you dump her like you did last time. [/quote] Real Talk right their. Yea i noticed my mistake, thanks to you. And well right now... her friend told me that she likes to mess with like 3-4 other guys, like kiss or bites and touch. Her friend told me that just now and they do it when the guy is gone. I'm kinda hurt now, imma see what else her friend is gonna tell me so brb Facebook.

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itarik 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

just say her when u see her again u love her

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SecretShop 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

bang her up!

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CornyDK 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] itarik : just say her when u see her again u love her [/quote] i guess u could do this and look at her in the eyes too

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dappersnake 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I love stabbing myself about as much as you love this chick

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You could do a little flirting here and there, just hope to God that she isn't stupid enough to tell her boyfriend like what happened to me (idiot chick). You gotta sorta pull her out of the relationship. Make her realize that maybe you're better. @the football analogy: he may have thrown the interception, but now he's more motivated to get out there, tackle hard and recover a fumble (I know he was a QB before, but shush). There's really little that can be done at this point. Talk to her and make her like you, don't overdo it, wait for her to cut off the relationship and you're back in the game.

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BabyyFresh 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Boss : You could do a little flirting here and there, just hope to God that she isn't stupid enough to tell her boyfriend like what happened to me (idiot chick). You gotta sorta pull her out of the relationship. Make her realize that maybe you're better. @the football analogy: he may have thrown the interception, but now he's more motivated to get out there, tackle hard and recover a fumble (I know he was a QB before, but shush). There's really little that can be done at this point. Talk to her and make her like you, don't overdo it, wait for her to cut off the relationship and you're back in the game. [/quote] How can i stop from overdoing it? I talk to her everyday for an hour or 2. Should i keep it up or slow down to every other day?

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duudee 04/14/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

On to the next one!

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[quote] BabyyFresh : How can i stop from overdoing it? I talk to her everyday for an hour or 2. Should i keep it up or slow down to every other day? [/quote] If she's responding enthusiastically and normally, then that's good. The point is to get her to want you, more than she wants her current boyfriend. If her boyfriend knew, he'd step up his game, yeah? It's typical that boyfriends stop putting effort into a relationship as soon as he has the trophy. In short you want to talk to her as much as you can without her boyfriend knowing your intentions.

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BabyyFresh + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Boss : If she's responding enthusiastically and normally, then that's good. The point is to get her to want you, more than she wants her current boyfriend. If her boyfriend knew, he'd step up his game, yeah? It's typical that boyfriends stop putting effort into a relationship as soon as he has the trophy. In short you want to talk to her as much as you can without her boyfriend knowing your intentions. [/quote] Okay thanks, what kind of stuff should i talk to her about? should i even mention how i feel about her, relationships etc?

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