I think Maple has made me gender confused

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thread starter Alexis91 Feb 05 2010 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Well to start things off, I should admit that I'm probably bisexual. I won't go far into my personal life since it's hardly relevant to MS; I'll only mention that I've been going on and off between mostly guys and just a few girl friends. I should also point out a fair amount of these friends have played Maple with me in the past, and just about every one of them has quit by now. Anyway, one of my first rl friends recently came back to play MS again and I was so overjoyed to see her again. We haven't spoken recently for a while since we both go to different colleges, and so we both got pretty close with each again over the last few weeks as I helped her restart her Bandit. I should mention here that I was very attracted to her a long time ago, but I learned to suppress these feelings towards her because she was normal and didn't reciprocate those feelings to me. So naturally I was surprised when she offered to get one of new Christmas FR (which are quite obviously meant to be an alternative CR for friends). But I already had one of those rings with another friend of mine, so I had to decline. Then she began to insist that she could play her brother's character and get a CR with me, and more or less confessed her feelings for me. Amazed and happy as I was, I was also extremely suspicious. So far, based off her mannerisms, attitude, and knowledge, I was convinced that this really was my friend from so long ago, but I was equally resolute on the fact that the nature of our relationship was not mutual. Thus I resolved to take matters more closely into my hands and investigated this matter more thoroughly. After some complicated inquiries with friends and relatives, I finally reached her by phone for the first time since we both graduated only to learn that she hasn't recently been on MS at all. As it turns out, the person who was impersonating her and confessed to me was in fact her twin brother. He tells me that my feelings towards him shouldn't be any different because of my gender orientation, and yet it doesn't feel the same to me anymore. It's true that he shares many of the same qualities that I admire in his sister, but I feel as though I was taken advantage of in the same way online predators do. Right now I'm really confused as to where I should stand on this matter and how to resolve my feelings.

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tuegi 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Alexis91 : By the way, am I the only one who sees blue background in my posts? If not, why do I have it? [/quote] You're special. I WANT TO BE SPECIAL TOO D: OT : Do what your gut feels like. If you still like him after being deceived, give him a chance. If not, give him the good ol' cold shoulder/dump/no.

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Alexis91 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] nikkichan : Ewie.... I dun like liars. There's chemistry there as you've mentioned but to me it seems like he's ruined what could have become something by lieing to you. How can you trust him? Off topic: Gay Pride! <333 I'm bi too. =3 [/quote] Yes, I </3 liars too <//33 And YAY! You'll be my friend too, yes? =3

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AlterSniper 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

wow. i havent seen ANYBODY on basil use proper grammar before i read this.... i guess its because most of us are lazy.... anyway.... it's definitely natural for you to feel like you were taken advantage of. in fact, it would a bit concerning if you didn't feel that way. my advise to you is to move on. chances are that what her brother said does not reflect how your friend feels about you, and i honestly doubt that you can change that. as for resolving your feelings, that's entirely up to you. you can take advise from people on how to do that if you want, just know that if you follow their advise, then you will be resolving your feelings the way they would do it, and not necessarily the way that YOU would do it. take some time and think about it. as much time as you need. if her brother is truly in love with you, then he can wait. trust me on that. its been 5 years and im still waiting.....

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Harman2 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] AlterSniper : wow. i havent seen ANYBODY on basil use proper grammar before i read this.... i guess its because most of us are lazy.... anyway.... it's definitely natural for you to feel like you were taken advantage of. in fact, it would a bit concerning if you didn't feel that way. my advise to you is to move on. chances are that what her brother said does not reflect how your friend feels about you, and i honestly doubt that you can change that. as for resolving your feelings, that's entirely up to you. you can take advise from people on how to do that if you want, just know that if you follow their advise, then you will be resolving your feelings the way they would do it, and not necessarily the way that YOU would do it. take some time and think about it. as much time as you need. if her brother is truly in love with you, then he can wait. trust me on that. its been 5 years and im still waiting..... [/quote] Word up.

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Alexis91 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] AlterSniper : it's definitely natural for you to feel like you were taken advantage of. in fact, it would a bit concerning if you didn't feel that way. my advise to you is to move on. chances are that what her brother said does not reflect how your friend feels about you, and i honestly doubt that you can change that. as for resolving your feelings, that's entirely up to you. you can take advise from people on how to do that if you want, just know that if you follow their advise, then you will be resolving your feelings the way they would do it, and not necessarily the way that YOU would do it. take some time and think about it. as much time as you need. if her brother is truly in love with you, then he can wait. trust me on that. its been 5 years and im still waiting..... [/quote] So I guess I should figure out what his intentions are... [quote] AlterSniper : wow. i havent seen ANYBODY on basil use proper grammar before i read this.... i guess its because most of us are lazy.... anyway.... [/quote] Lol thanks. But I'm willing to bet my old British literature teacher would still give me a C or less.

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hyperfire7 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Shouldn't trust be the priority of ALL relationships? And you've stated that your Bisexual, so why are you so surprised that you were attracted to him? If I were you, I would end this now cuz he deceived you and took advantage of you.

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Alexis91 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] hyperfire7 : Shouldn't trust be the priority of ALL relationships? And you've stated that your Bisexual, so why does it matter that you were attracted to him/her? [/quote] Well it's rather minor I suppose. I guess I'm just hinting at the problematic nature of 2D side scrolling games that lack voice chat when it comes to true quality socializing.

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Pyrogetta 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Let me give you the best advice. First of all, I've 'seen' friends from my Blist going crazy because online relationships failed them. The thing you should do is, simply enjoy this game, and for love go to a bar on friday night and meet a nice girl or guy. Only that, makes you fully aware of your feelings and sexual orientation. You'll be by far richer than you are now.

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Bullets + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Isn't it similar to a girl tricking you? It's still a different person, and when you say they have the same qualities... I'm pretty sure you went looking for those qualities you knew your old friend had already. Just saying, boy or girl, most of your feelings are for your other friend.

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Harman2 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

... Flip a coin? =D.

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YumAlfredo 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I think you're the first bisexual/bi-curious I've ever heard refer to Heteros as 'Normal'. lol. That's actually a little condescending towards yourself. OT: Yeah, that's messed up. 'Tis the flaw in the internet. Not much you can do about it though, he was crushing on you, and couldn't figure out another way of approaching the situation. Different people deal with their problems in different ways, his was just a little more awkward than most.

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Alexis91 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] YumAlfredo : I think you're the first bisexual/bi-curious I've ever heard refer to Heteros as 'Normal'. lol. That's actually a little condescending towards yourself. [/quote] I'm at a loss as to what sort of vocabulary is suitable for Basilmarket's general age group. [quote] YumAlfredo : OT: Yeah, that's messed up. 'Tis the flaw in the internet. Not much you can do about it though, he was crushing on you, and couldn't figure out another way of approaching the situation. Different people deal with their problems in different ways, his was just a little more awkward than most. [/quote] Is it really merely a different method, or is it morally wrong? Apparently he thinks it's not.

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alexwilson94 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] Alexis91 : So I guess I should figure out what his intentions are... Lol thanks. But I'm willing to bet my old British literature teacher would still give me a C or less. [/quote] Pshh. Those Britts. They think they know it all :P Kinda off topic a little bit? - Bi girls = total turn on? (:

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Sheepy 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

You fell for his sister, and he used that against you. Thats definitely not okay! If he needs to lie to build a close relationship with you, then it's not going to end well. Looking at this in his point of view, he may have felt that he was insecure of what you would think of him, and a desperate attempt to get close to you, no matter what. Genders aside, knowing he did all this, tricked you, lied, and deceived you, do you think you could give him a chance? Don't compare him to his twin sister, instead, as him, and as this one person. Talk it over some more, and understand him. As for me, i'm bi, for the reason that I believe I can fall in love with another being, regardless of their gender. (=

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Alexis91 02/05/10 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

[quote] alexwilson94 : Kinda off topic a little bit? - Bi girls = total turn on? (: [/quote] I seem to get that a lot, and it seems to be a guy thing o.o

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