Girl advice please

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thread starter LethalJakeFTW Aug 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Well I like this girl. And she barely knows I'm alive. We sometimes walk by eachother and say hey or something but never really... Talk. I'm not much of a social type. Someone help please

sSsxsouljah Aug 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

It's simple. Talk. You cannot expect a girl to come up to you and start making all sorts of moves on you unless you talk to keep her interested. And if you're going to say that she barely knows you're alive, with that type of self esteem you won't get far with anything. ANd i know it's hard for some people to talk to the opposite sex, but nothing's going to happen unless you do something about it. If you really got no choice then befriend one of her good friends and ask the friend, to ask the girl you like, if she would ever go out with you. If she's interested, then that means you got a shot. Most of the time the girl will wait for the guy to make the move, so if anything, go for it. Many people think that being really good friends with a girl will up the chances of you two getting together as a couple. Really this might not work out because once you ask her, she will use the "Sorry, we are better as good friends. I don't want to ruin the friendship". And most of the time you drift away and you are less interested in her because all you really wanted was to date the girl. Just make sure you get to know her enough to know that you'd want to be her boyfriend and vice versa. If you get to know her way to much and you know everything about her, once you date her it might be boring because you already found out everything about her. Good luck (:

FirezRage 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I like a girl too. She's a year older than me.

XmoheganX 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Exactly what Soulja said. All you have to do is talk to know whether or not it'll go anywhere. No one can give you the courage to actually do it, you just have to do it. I'm sorry I can't give you anymore advice, but sometimes this is all there is to give for people who think they are not social. @ FireRage, being a year older isn't really a problem, is it?

RainDrop 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

What the first person said. And if you're really that shy, then you're not ready.

sSsxsouljah Aug 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

EDIT: To the third post Ask her out?

Zaptacious 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Your asking a community of immature kids...but I'll give it a whirl Ok so you gotta talk to her more often just when you see her just engage her in a friendly conversation wait about a few weeks before asking any personal questions cause its impolite, get her Aim SN/Msn/Phone number or any other ways of contacting her. If you go to school with her or something then you know talk to her there. If you don't know what to say then complement her she'll enjoy it and you'll feel good. Never and i mean Never! get on any girls bad side cause they will annoy you to death and I swear I've seen it happen too many times just utterly annoying and you want to kill yourself. All and all just be yourself and a friend to her don't focus on dating status till you think you know her as well as the back of your hand.

DeadlyDit 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

My advice TALK to her! Even a antisocial person can talk to a girl. Give her a compliment about something shes wearing or something about her you like, I wouldn't suggest complementing her Boobs/Butt most girls hate that. But yea for real just be yourself talk to her and eventually she'll begin to like you for who your are and not whatchu look like. Works for me at least.

XmoheganX 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Oh and if you do get to talking to her, don't be too clingy. Stay around your own group most of the times and only go up to her in your 'spare' time, per say.

sSsxsouljah Aug 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

FirezRage said: "I like a girl too. She's a year older than me." My own girlfriend is one year older than me and if you like the girl then just ask her out, if you can. Sometimes it's better to go for a girl older than you if you think it's better because they are alot more mature. Many of the younger girls will do all sorts of things for attention. I look alot older than my girlfriend though, haha so thats good.

ItsCloudy 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Dont force things If you try to make her like you, youll be just pushing her away Act as if you didnt like her Trust me i have A LOT of girl experience Btw Why are you asking basil They are prolly a bunch of asians who have never gotten a girl in their life -_-

Zaptacious 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Don't fear rejection, rejection is a symbol for waiting, and those who wait get good things indeed

zatwera 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

ItsCloudy said: "Dont force things If you try to make her like you, youll be just pushing her away Act as if you didnt like her Trust me i have A LOT of girl experience Btw Why are you asking basil They are prolly a bunch of asians who have never gotten a girl in their life -_-" Oh hell no man. Hell. No.

DeadlyDit 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

XmoheganX 08/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Zaptacious said: "Don't fear rejection, rejection is a symbol for waiting, and those who wait get good things indeed" That's so true... In a perfect world. Unfortunately, Planet Earth isn't one of those perfect worlds and we have to do what we have to do to get by. I'm just saying (at least this part relates to the subject); if you get rejected do NOT wait for her 'forever'. It'll be a lone-man's waiting game. There's so much more I'd like to say but then that means I'd have to type more and I'm tired right now... (2:38 AM). loll..D: