An Unexpected Realtionship Problem. HELP
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thread starter iMitchy Jun 09 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
For the few of you who know me, this is some pretty unexpected stuff, as a long while ago i usually gave this kind of advice. We started school, i met her, we shall call her Miss X, pretty girl etc, what do you know, i liked her. Shes a funny kind of girl, very pretty, but only ever had 1 boyfriend which was when she was like 13. She seemed oblivious to the fact that many boys in our school fancied the pants of her! Shes more of a friends friendly type. Anyway, after a couple months i realised this, feelings were NOT mutual, so, being the absolute idiot i was, i went to a party, got with some random girl, started meeting up with this random, then became boyfriend and girlfriend. I asked her out hoping this relationship would stop me liking Miss X. Anyway this clearly didnt work and after a while i realised this and broke up with this random girlfriend, i know, i regret playing her like that! Alot! Right, around a week after this, me and Miss X are at a party, by now you should know we are both VERY good freinds. Anyway Miss x got very drunk, and we sat down together, friends came in sayin, 'You to should really get with each other', as awkward as it was Miss X was like, yesss lets! So i told the people to leave and asked her, you sure you're not saying this because your drunk, do you mean it. Miss X replied that she meant it and liked me etc etc. We kissed. Next morning, i recieve a text, ' im sorry were better of as friends blah blah please forgive me etc.' I felt like CRAP! really. But i spoke to her about, understood and tried to brush it away. Niether to say the feelings remained. So months later were at another party, we both get drunk, and bam, we kiss the whole night again! This time i didnt expect anything, but even though i new this, i still couldnt stop myself. We acted as friends again, what she wanted, but definetly NOT what i wanted. So, again! a couple months later we're both drunk in the pub, and yes, we kiss each other for the whole night, the next day act as freinds. Right now heres where it gets intersting. A couple weeks later we go to a house party, the same house where we kissed first, and this time i decide its not going to happen again, as i always wanted a relationship but she didnt, so we party, drink, and i try speaking to this other gorgeous girl. Me and this 'gorgeous girl' go upstairs, we're alone, then guess who pops up... Miss X. Miss X is very drunk at this point, but her and my best freind are best freinds. His name is Mr Y. Mr Y is my best friend, this may confuse but bare with me. Mr Y tells me that Miss X has realised she has feeling for me, because she gets jelous of this 'gorgeous girl' when im upstairs with her and talking to her. I think, its just cos shes drunk again, she cant make up her mind, but yet AGAIN, i cant help but go downstairs, speak to her, end up kissing and going upstairs and sleeping together. By sleeping together i mean JUST sleeping next to each other. We wake up and i ask her, she says s
GEEK Jun 09 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
Okay, I read the whole thing and if I were you, I'd do this: Break up with her; make her come to you, not you to her. On a side note, congrats on getting laid
Lanique 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
OHAI MITCHY! let me read that wall of text
EraserBuddy Jun 09 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
EraserBuddyOh man this is long. ): Well i think you should not depend on her as much. confront her?
Doomsday777 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
She obviously doesn't love you, and if you don't like that, just leave her. =/ There's no point in trying to convince her, as if you do, then she wouldn't really be loving you, would she? If you're in it for the...er..."fun times", then to hell with love.
Dasu 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
u expect me to read this?
kusengi 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
summaryyyyyyyyyyyyyy
NerfMaverick 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
Stop drinking, seriously. Alcohol makes you depressed.
Panicka 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
PanickaJust because you make a point to say "I never thought I would do this" doesn't make you seem any better for still asking Basil.
Jovial Jun 09 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
Wow, lol so much to read. Anyways, I think since she is letting you see this on her ims, she's trying to say something to you. She basically wants you to be more like her relationshipwise, a liking relationship. Also, she could be too overwhelmed with you saying you love her and stuff at 4 months--sometimes it takes a whileeeeeeee. My boyfriend (3 years) said I love you seriously a year into our relationship. I told him I loved him after a month into the relationship- that made it so awkward, but we continued to casually date. Sometimes you may love someone but you might end up being incompatible at the end. But don't fret, 4 months (least to me) is still early in the relationship, maybe you two can meet half way. You be less "clingy", as she defines it and she become more romatic. If not, and you're really looking for a serious relationship from her, save yourself the trouble, break it off. Relationships aren't perfect, as Dan Savage has said, "There is not a 'one', there are ones ." I might come back with more insight later.
iMitchy Jun 09 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
NerfMaverick said: "Stop drinking, seriously. Alcohol makes you depressed." We only drink on social occasions. @panicka, seems like mr flamy is still here, post is edited now then,
Lanique 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
looks like she thinks you are too clingy and whiney maybe you should cut that down a little and not make her the center of your life blahblah make her realise you don't depend on her, maybe she just needs some little challenge
FlashBlow 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
score i think
poesjesbaas 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
dude you are having sex with the girl u love/like, enjoy it but yeah what she said to her friend was just mean and low :S confront her?
malapo 06/09/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT
yeah i hate it when they talk behind your back and when you're around they act all "friendly"
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