For those who say "I hate my parents"

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thread starter iComeInPeace May 03 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Peace be upon you everyone. I've seen many posts of people saying "I hate my parents" or similar posts. I have a couple of questions for you. 1) Have you ever tried to look at things their way? 2) Have you ever thought of how hard they work to get you food/shelter/happiness? 3) Have you ever thought of how much they did for you? 4) Have you ever thought of a way that would make them happy? or are you selfish, and want to have it your way only? 5) Has it ever occurred to you that what you're going through, they've already went through? 6) Has it ever occurred to you that they have more experience in life than you do? 7) Has it ever occurred to you that raising you isn't the only thing that they're trying to do? Please, I've only heard of parents loving their children and wanting the best for their children, the only time I've heard of a parent trying to hurt their children are parents with mental illnesses.. If you have any problems with your parents, then talk to them about it, in a nice way, fighting/arguing will most likely only make it worse. Try to keep your parents happy, and trust me, its going to make your life much better.

dada13 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Jinxiy said: " Not really scary. It's pretty common the older you get." Yup. Especially if move into a different country with no other relatives and friends. Oo

ElfenLied May 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

phantom021 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

i just hate how my mom overreacts for EVERYTHING. If i dont put the mat (the little rug outside the tub, i have to put it on the tub for some reason), if i dont change the paper towels, if I forget something really small, if i leave the shower head on a different setting than what she likes, if i do my homework and she thinks i haven't done it even though she asks me several times and i say yes (llike today she asked me 3 times if I did my homework and all 3 times i said YES!) I get yelled at like there is no tomorrow. I get yelled at like i just crashed her car or broke every dish in the kitchen. I get yelled at for everything.

MoondropTifa May 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

n01if3n3rd said: " Why, yes I am. I can also say that all acts of kindness have some kind of other motive that benefits the person giving the kindness, and the only reason people are generous is for that reason." u are soo naive and dim. i do acts of kindness to get stuff out of them sometimes, yes. but its rare. most of the time i do it because i want to help out. before you post ur selfish comments go live life a little more and get to know how it really is to be nice to someone just because you want to. not to get something back. live it until you actually know a scrap of knowledge about life and how parents feel when they get a assfaced kid like you that they try so hard for comin around and treatin em like sht. i would have sent you off specifically to the adoption services if you were mine. go treat them how you want not people who actually care and try

ElfenLied 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

phantom021 said: "i just hate how my mom overreacts for EVERYTHING. If i dont put the mat (the little rug outside the tub, i have to put it on the tub for some reason), if i dont change the paper towels, if I forget something really small, if i leave the shower head on a different setting than what she likes, if i do my homework and she thinks i haven't done it even though she asks me several times and i say yes (llike today she asked me 3 times if I did my homework and all 3 times i said YES!) I get yelled at like there is no tomorrow. I get yelled at like i just crashed her car or broke every dish in the kitchen. I get yelled at for everything." i share your pain, but one day it will be over

DJoker 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I love my dad, he's so kind and everything, I want to be like him. My mom...on the other hand...I just don't know. It's either neutral or dislike. I get what the whole thread is about, but when you get down to it, in my life, when your mom thinks of you, for who you are, as absolutely disgusting and everything you do is wrong...well...it's hard to like someone like that.

Vysper 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I love my parents, I just sometimes don't like them. And I don't need some 10 year old kid trying to guilt me about it, thanks.

n01if3n3rd May 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

MoondropTifa said: " u are soo naive and dim. i do acts of kindness to get stuff out of them sometimes, yes. but its rare. most of the time i do it because i want to help out. before you post ur selfish comments go live life a little more and get to know how it really is to be nice to someone just because you want to. not to get something back. live it until you actually know a scarp of knowledge about life and how parents feel when they get a assfaced kid like you that they try so hard for comin around and treatin em like sht. i would have sent you off specifically to the adoption services if you were mine. go treat them how you want not people who actually care and try" "because you want to help out" You are only doing it because you "want" to(keyword "want"). It makes you feel nice a giddy inside, doesn't it? I suppose you enjoy helping out people, just as I enjoy reading critiques on my beliefs. As for your last sentence..... I had absolutely no idea what you we're trying to say(treat others like how you want to be treated?) ElfenLied said: " thinking like that is just corruptive and destructive and doesnt do anyone any good so keep it to yourself" I suppose if that's how the American society views it, then yes. Then again, some of the greatest ideas and philosophies in history came from thinking differently....(not implying anything)

dalost May 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

1. I tried and failed. (I don't see how, for instance I throw a punch at my brother I get yelled at for hitting him, but when he hits me I get yelled at for not defending myself and my bro doesn't get yelled at all.) 2. Yes, but I have also considered how hard they try to keep me feel worthless, ie telling me how I was a mistake and will amount to nothing and how much I fail at life basically. 3. Same as above basically 4. There is nothing that can make both of my parents happy (Yes I have tried) and I admit I am selfish, but aren't we all? 5. My dad went through a similar situation I was in before (New school new people and had the same bad experience), but minus all the verbal abuse. 6. Yes 7. Yes, but heck I was a mistake, so they should've thought of the consequences. I have tried to talk to my parents about it, but my mom always ends up yelling at me even more and my dad has to take her side so he stays "happy". I also try to keep my parents happy, but if they can't yell at me for one thing they yell at me for another, like one time I got an A on a presentation they essentailly said pfff you are wearing the worng pants, you know how bad you look? yada yada yada Edit: I wouldn't say I really hate my parents, but its more of a strong distaste for them.

skaii345 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Vysper said: "I love my parents, I just sometimes don't like them. And I don't need some 10 year old kid trying to guilt me about it, thanks." Nice pic edit i like the hair and war paint

ImaStupidSin 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

my mom bought me glasses and i guess i was grateful...until she made fun at me after... Mother of the YEAR!

DJoker 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

ImaStupidSin said: "my mom bought me glasses and i guess i was grateful...until she made fun at me after... Mother of the YEAR!" Mine beats yours. LOL

DevilOfRoses 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I love my parents to bits. But of course I've had those moments where I'm like "god, I hate my parents."

Cakes 05/04/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Guys, don't be mean. The TS comes in peace

ImaStupidSin May 04 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

DJoker said: " Mine beats yours. LOL" my dad is much worse D: no body in my mom side of my family wouldnt even go to my house bcuz of him they live right nxt to us