What to do about my crush?

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thread starter luckywiz Apr 13 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I have a dilemma here. There's a girl I've had a crush on for the past year or two. I know her from church, not school. My family and her mother are close. We are both way too shy to even talk to each other. I like her, and lately I've noticed that she might like me. (I will from time to time look in her general direction and see her staring at me, and then quickly glancing away and pretending to do something, but I may just be imagining this, she is my crush after all). That is all I have to go on. I want to talk to her, even making my feelings known to her, but, I would rather not have the whole frickin world know, because from my family I could easily catch alot of crap, some thinking its cute, and some thinking its inappropriate for my age (early hs). Be aware that in our families, in our religion, datng has one purpose, and that is to see if that person is fit to marry. Basically no dating if there's no possibility of a marriage in the future. That said, I wouldn't be dating her because we just are too young to marry (again, early high school). I would however like to get to know her, at least as a friend. thing is, I have no real idea of how she feels about me. If I were to start talking to her alot, and she takes it the wrong way, she could tell her mom, who would tell my parents, which would come down on me pretty bad. It would be increibly awkward to say the least. I could just tell her how I feel outright, but that could end the same way. I have considered telling some friends of mine (also friends of the family) about it and getting their advice, but I have no clue what would happen there, and I think that would be pretty awkward considering the situation. I could talk to my parents about it, get their advice, but that would be really awkward. So what should I do? Or should I just let the situation sit for a few years till she's out of highschool and I'm a senior? Also, try to muster as much maturity as possible mkay? edit: Alright, well I got an idea, tell me how this would go? I could go up to her and say that I have a crush on a girl, ask her advice because she's a girl, she would have insight on what should be done here. Then, the next time I see her, take her advice, on her. What do you think there? It would at least give me insight on how she feels on the subject. what do you think of this?

scenebean 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Tell your story to a consular not basil.

SpaceRazorz 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

......... Good luck .........

LordSlawter 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Okay start off slow. Find something stupid to do togther. "Hey, you wanna go to the park and throw rocks at people?" Something like that...

ihalox 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Complicated love. Why bother?

NinjaBuddy Apr 13 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Finish Her?

luckywiz Apr 13 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

scenebean said: "Tell your story to a consular not basil." Well gee, I homeschool. My counselor is my mom... what do i do? And at lordSlawter she's not that kind of girl to do stupid stuff. She is sophisticated. So yea, no stupid stuff.

Xiphias3 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Ask her to hang out and do some stuff, like play some games if she likes those, play some outdoor activities

bloodytearz 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

do what i do, lifting weights build high self-esteem and confidence.

xChaosBndit 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Tell her. If she does tell your parents, what could possibly happen? It's a simple crush. Not really something in your control. I'm sure your parents and her parents would understand. xO

andrewjeff Apr 13 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

ask her out >=3 EDIT: Do not listen to bloodytears,s no big muscles =/= big confidence.. just be friends.. For now ;D

LordSlawter Apr 13 2009 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Like seriously, dunt go up to a gurl and tell her that you like her. Especially if you barely talk to her. Idk about other ppl, but I've failed miserably every time I've attempted that. @_@ Start off slow, like how you'd make any friend. :O Okay fine, you dunt wanna try stupid stuff, try something simple, but "sophisticated" :O Ask her to like, listen to some music with you :O

bond50 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

Lol just ask her if she wants to go out to the movies or dinner with you on friday or something =)

scenebean 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

luckywiz said: " Well gee, I homeschool. My counselor is my mom... what do i do? And at lordSlawter she's not that kind of girl to do stupid stuff. She is sophisticated. So yea, no stupid stuff." Hire one? explore what are called "phone books"

RedRyders 04/13/09 + PM | QUOTE | PERMALINK | REPORT

I guess go talk to her, ask her to hang out once in a while. Go to movies or hang with her friends, get them to like you/not hate you. THen slowly get more involved, patience is a virtue. Take her to a dance or something, ask her to be your church buddy (idk about that, i'm Buddhist so not so sure of that stuff) Make sure not to take too long with this, since you might seem more like a friend. Depending on her personality, you can kiss her out of nowhere to attempt to get an answer, or you can simply ask her to be your GF when you feel she is comfortable. Disclaimer Disclaimer: i am not a very informed person on this, just thinking what i think about